Erotic Clothing

In a sense, any clothing can be erotic clothing, because eroticism is, first and foremost, a state of mind.  That said, it's also the case that there is a considerable range of clothing which is designed to achieve erotic effects.  Such clothing includes sexy lingerie and fetish wear, and can be distinguished from other clothes in that it specifically draws attention to the body's sexual characteristics: the groin are, the breasts, and so on.

Most of the time, these parts of the body are emphasised either by being exposed (as in crotchless panties or assless chaps), or by being one of the few parts to be concealed (as in the classic bra and panties combination).  Even a full face leather fetish mask does this in a way, since in most such masks, the only part of the face left uncovered will be the lips.

When buying erotic clothing, the most important thing to keep in mind is your own comfort level – and not so much in a physical sense as in an emotional one.  When looking at or trying on erotic clothing, envision yourself wearing it (or look at yourself in the mirror), and ask yourself how comfortable you'd feel wearing it.  Would you feel embarrassed or self-conscious?  And in what situations?  After all, you'll probably feel a lot more secure wearing sexy lingerie in front of your partner alone than you would in front of a whole nightclub full of strangers.  Just remember that although you may well have stage fright before you go out in front of your audience (whatever size it may be), once you're out there, you'll be too busy having fun to worry too much about what other people are thinking.

In any case, once you've figured out your comfort zone, buying erotic clothing is pretty much like buying any other sort of clothing: it needs to fit you well; the colours should go with your eyes, hair and skin; and so on.

The next thing you need to ask yourself is what sort of erotic effect you're going for, because that will dictate the type of erotic clothing you want to buy.

For example, if you want to create a kinky mood, then you'll probably want to get something along the lines of fetish wear.  On the other hand, if you're wanting something elegant and refined, you'll be wanting lacy underwear that hints more than reveals.  Or you might want to just get something that says slutty fun.  The possibilities are endless, and sometimes making a choice is the hardest part.  But there's no law saying you're stuck with you choices – you can always get something else and try a different mood and look later on if you feel so inclined.

The final thing to keep in mind is that it's not just about the clothes.  Despite what the old saying says, the clothes do not make the man – or the woman.  The wearer makes the clothes.  It all comes down to your attitude – although you can help that along by creating the right kind of environment.  Elegant lingerie calls for equally elegant bedclothes and fittings, with illumination by candlelight to add to the romance.  Fetish wear will benefit from a few fetish props lying around – a whip, a pair of hand cuffs – even if you never wind up using them.

Above all else, remember that the most important thing is that you and your partner enjoy yourselves.